It's important to your process to understand that there is no "right" or "wrong" when it comes to your feelings about losing a loved one.
While there may be times as you are coping with loss when you'll wish to be alone, it's important to gather a support group around you for those times when you might need them.
For two-and-a-half years my family lived in limbo, wondering when the cancer would return, how fast it would take over his brain, and how the rest of us would possibly survive without the head of our family to guide us. Reading his story, it was as though I were reliving my own father’s passing all over again.
And then, a few months after my father passed, I happened to come across a student’s college application essay about his own father’s death. But then it hit me: I managed to pull myself through a horrific family event with the support of my husband, my sister, and a grief counselor to boot.
Love is indefinable and difficult to understand; it is a variety of feelings and attitudes towards something or someone, or a state of affection that ranges in the interpersonal relationship.
It is a strong attraction that attaches a person to anything in a personal manner.
The death of a loved one often leaves a large hole in the life of the survivor that can be, at least temporarily, occupied by a support team. It's important to know that every person has their own way of coping with loss. You must allow yourself to experience the stages of grief as they come up. While the pain of your loss is real and must be felt, there will come a time when you must begin to live your own life again.
By working through overcoming the death of a loved one, you will come to a place of accepting the death as a reality.
So if the best way for an admissions officer to learn about you stems from a personal tragedy, that’s okay.
But remember that your essay isn’t really about the death of your loved one; it’s about the lessons you learned from that experience and how those lessons manifest themselves in your intellect, your academics, or your extracurriculars. Elyse Krantz is a member of College Coach’s team of college admissions experts.